Helping Children Learn to be Thankful

November is synonymous for giving thanks; however, it’s often a mystery as to how we do this when young children are tantruming, whining or showing off their defiant side. In the 111 years Deaconess Children’s Services has been working with children and families, we have collected a few tips on how to help children gain a sense of gratitude. In fact, two of our evidence-based parenting programs emphasize the power of using labeled praises with children and how it helps children build a strong sense of self worth – the Incredible Years and Parent-Child Interaction Therapy.

1) Use pretend play to act out thankful behaviors.
2) Use praise with authentic enthusiasm and tell children how thankful you are for them.
3) Model praise and encouragement with everyone in you come into contact with at home, work, even the grocery store.
4) Catch children in the act and let them know you are thankful for their positive behavior.
5) Help siblings and playmates be thankful for each other by encouraging them to give one another a “thank you” when someone is nice.
6) Raise awareness of multiculturalism and diversity. Help children learn to be thankful for children from all backgrounds.
7) Celebrate – “Being different and unique is great!”
8) Discuss community service and select a hands-on project to help others in your community with your family.
9) Take time to sit down with children and have a conversation about what they are most thankful for in life.
10) Teach children to be thankful every day, including days when there are lots of challenges. Building resilience in children will help them thrive, even in the most difficult times in their lives.

Deaconess Children's Services wishes you all a Happy Thanksgiving!